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My Earliest Memories

by LissaT @ Thursday, May. 01, 2008 - 12:08:30 pm

In a recent blog I wrote about my memories of being five years old. Some people find being able to remember in detail that far back amazing, so I thought I would go back a bit further.

It is dark, and I am carried out into a starkly black and white snow covered landscape. In the lamplight I see close to me the details of twigs coated in white frost or snow. I am handed down by the starchy one into the arms of the one who smells right.

The doors close and the car moves off. Lying on my back I can see when we move from the dark into a street in which there are pools of light from each shop. There are canopies in front of many of them with things stacked under them. The light is less vivid, and less all enveloping than that of the shopping streets we now know. The colours are muted. We move into dimmer light again, and the memory ends.

I asked my mother about this memory, and there is only one occasion that fits: I was six days old and being taken home from the maternity home.

There was hard, settled, frozen snow the February I was born.

My father's vehicle in those days was a fish lorry, but grandad lent him his car to take home his first grandchild, so this is the only time before I was a sitting up child that I travelled in a car. I must have travelled on my mother's lap many times in the lorry (children did in those days) but the angle of my view in this memory is completely wrong for that.

The logical route from the Croft Baker Maternity Home at the top end of Mill Road to our home in Prince's Road would have been down Trinity Road/Beacon Avenue past the cemetery and the Girls' Grammar School and on to Clee Road, but my memory shows Mill Road to St. Peter's Avenue with all its shops. Apparently not all of the obvious route was metalled road in those days, and - although my memory includes nothing of this and neither of my parents could recall either - we may have stopped to introduce me to Grandad, Nothernan, Uncle Steve and Auntie Clare who lived at the bottom end of Mill Road.

I also find the concentration of light and the muted colours of my memories interesting. I have since learned that babies are supposed only to see in monochrome at first. Most of my early memories are in glorious technicolor, and here they are not truly monochrome but more like an interim stage on one of those fades on a film from black and white to colour.

This is the earliest thing I can remember. I have several distinct memories of my maternal grandfather which must date from my first year as grandad died when I was fourteen months old.

I am in my pram and he is pushing me down Isaac's Hill on the far side from Princes' Road. As we turn to cross the road I can see the boards round the site where in a very few years time the Memorial Hall will be built.

I am in my pram again, and we are in the Dolphin Gardens to see the clock. My cousins Shelagh, Jackie and Richard, but not I think Patsy, are with us.
My memory gives no details of the clock beyond the fact that it was a clock although in my mind I have substituted a Hickory Dickory Dock clock from the Cleethorpes seafront illuminations. I am told that it was the Emmett Clock which on tour had reached Cleethorpes four years after its first appearance at the Festival of Britain. Unlike other memories here, this one is reinforced by a photograph.

I am in Nan's arms and she has carried me to the corner of Princes' Road to see the clock on the Electricity Showroom.
I have this memory from a toddling point of view as well, and I believe this little excursion was oft repeated. the clock is still there and the art deco building is now grade 2 listed.

I am in Nan's arms and she is holding the roses on the tall bushes in the garden for me to smell.
This too is oft repeated and reinforced by a photograph.
Princes Road
The house in Princes' Road - now in a sorry state of disrepair and with an overgrown hedge replacing Nan's roses.

I am toddling up Isaac's Hill beside Nan on the way to the library. I hold up my arms to be carried and she tells me that she can't carry me any more now she is an old lady of sixty-one.
Nan was sixty years and five days older than I, which means that any memories of being carried by her date to my first year and maybe a few months into my second.

I am with my cousins playing on a board floor in one room (a bedroom, I think) Jackie is trying hard with Patsy and me and entertaining us with a glove puppet monkey. Shelagh is reading a book. Richard is playing there too. The grown-ups are in another room on the other side of the front door. Everyone is sad and quiet.
I think that the location must be my uncle's and aunt's house (a plotlands timber building) on a field by the Thames with views (which I don't remember) of Hampton Court, and the occasion must be just before or after my grandfather's funeral.

My other memories of babyhood are mainly of scents and feelings. I can still remember the feeling of terry-towelling between my legs and the smell of urine mingled with Johnson's Baby Powder as the nappy is removed - a strange smell for nostalgia.

Talking about Johnson's Baby Powder reminds me of another repeated early memory: I am lying on my back on a flannelette sheet in big basket scales looking up at ranks of brown varnished shelves stacked with the goods of a chemist's shop and surrounded by a plethora of fascinating smells.
The shop I am pretty certain must be Broadburn’s at the top of St. Peter's Avenue, although my more conscious memories are of the expanded and modernised shop over the last fifty years.

By this time I am very much a walking talking baby, so I'll move on from babyhood to toddlerdom in a later blog.

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loiswakemanloiswakeman [Member]
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01/05/08 @ 14:43

Your recall is truly exceptional, Lissa. I have a few fragmentary memories of the house where I was born: the wallpaper in the hall; seeing trolleybuses out of the window, and bathing in the navy blue bath, spinning round on my potty, and being in my old-fashioned push chair making a humming noise to see how the bumps made my voice waver. But that's about all that I actually remember than imagine through having been told.

I watched a documentary about the memory on the TV a month or so ago. It suggested most children remember little that happens before they are three or so, including an experiment hiding a toy in a room and letting them look for it a few weeks later. The older children were very significantly better than the under-threes at recalling where the researcher put the toy. So, you are exceptional I think! How wonderful to have so many details of your childhood, rather than vague fuzzy feelings like I do.

Have you considered writing your autobiography? It would make for fascinating social history.

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LissaTLissaT pro
01/05/08 @ 15:04

I have discussed memory with lots of people of whom fifteen or sixteen had clear memories of very early childhood - twelve of them close blood relatives. I think it must be genetic, although coming from a family that talks constantly will help in keeping some memories alive, though not the most mundane ones.

Don't you have to have had an unhappy childhood full of abuse and uncertainties to write an autobiography? I don't think that crying all the way through triple Latin because my 10 year old rabbit had died that morning really counts as trauma in the grand scale of these things.

loiswakemanloiswakeman [Member]
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01/05/08 @ 15:30

I hope not. I had a very happy childhood - as I guess did you - and reading about nice things is as essential as being harrowed!

I was thinking that memories of the 50s and 60s are probably fascinating to those young people who think of them as "olden times"

lizdavieslizdavies pro
01/05/08 @ 23:27

I have quite clear memories datable from when we lived in West Street, but as we didn't move away from there until I was 6 they don't count in the same league as yours.
Some that are definitely pre-school:
Riding round and round the back yard on my tricycle (big old fashioned black one with a boot at the back and chain driven wheels) thinking "I'll go round one more time before I cry" because my mother had gone out without me.
My Dad coming into the yard to show us his smart new suit, that he'd got to celebrate his 30th birthday.
Sitting under the table playing with a doll that wasn't mine, dressing it in a blue flounced frock that I thought was lovely, but was disappointed because it was too large for the doll and didn't look right. My table was behind the sofa where my mum was talking to older relatives. I'm almost sure we were in Hull, having gone across on the ferry, but I don't actually recall that particular journey.

LissaTLissaT pro
02/05/08 @ 00:02

Do you remember the infant class at Mill Road Sunday School? There were little chairs, a teacher's chair, and one little chair with long legs - I think it was probably one of those special chairs that better off Victorians had so that their little children could sit up properly at table. Anyway, sitting on that chair was greatly prized, and one girl claimed it was her right to do so because she was the tallest in the class. Was that you? Because I think that was our first encounter, but I'm not certain.

skip2468skip2468 [Member]
02/05/08 @ 00:07

Very interesting once again. A few years back I blogged my memoires from when I was four till I reached the ripe old age of twenty - the year that I completed my teacher training.

My younger daughter may have been the only one who took an interest in my meagre efforts and unknown to me, she produced a wonderful journal of my memoires, photos and all.

She kindly presented the memoires to me at a family gathering for my birthday. Believe me it is my treasured possession not because of what it is , but rather because of the very special kindness that Sheryl brought to me.

LissaTLissaT pro
02/05/08 @ 00:32

I did a big red "This is your life" book for my father's 70th birthday.

skip2468skip2468 [Member]
02/05/08 @ 11:07

Congratulations.

Your father would have appreciated your effort and your loving thoughts.

birdsongbirdsong pro
03/05/08 @ 00:21

This is the most amazing post.

A real inspiration. Profound, moving, enlightening, encouraging, humorous.

Thank you so much. I don't know quite what for yet...

LissaTLissaT pro
03/05/08 @ 02:53

Really? It's just the random collection of memories I have from my first fifteen months - precious to me because they contain my only memories of my maternal grandfather, but beyond that . . .

mycorneroftheworldmycorneroftheworld [Member]
03/05/08 @ 18:23

This is amazing! I can't recall anything from being a baby!

kevinwilsonkevinwilson pro
06/05/08 @ 18:20

lovely to read.
it's important to remember.
sometimes we have to go back, to go forward (i think!)

LissaTLissaT pro
06/05/08 @ 18:46

See my new blog today.

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